Today I heard Pablo Picasso’s quote about women: There are only two types of women – goddesses and doormats. And it got me thinking… Picasso’s words should become any girls mantra and
inspiration. I hope you’ll read
on.
1.
Confident and self-assured. As far as I see it, confidence is derived from knowing who
you are and being comfortable in your own skin. It comes from believing
in yourself and in your capabilities. It is NOT arrogance. No way.
In fact, truly confident people are
humble and gracious. They don’t
need to flaunt themselves for other’s approval and attention. They
listen more than they talk and they enjoy giving compliments more than
receiving them. How you dress, carry yourself, and converse all
demonstrate your level of confidence.
2.
Strong and independent. She
doesn’t let life live her, but instead she lives her own life. She has
goals, dreams, and aspirations
separate from her love life. In fact,
she would never entertain the thought of giving herself up just to be
with a man. Catching and keeping him isn’t the end all be all of her
existence and she won’t melt into a guy, trying to be who and what she
thinks he wants. It is perfectly wonderful to want, and even need, a
man. But to compliment you, not to complete you.
3.
Emotionally stable. I recently read a
fascinating article. It stated that most men have a deep need to be
loved by a woman who is emotionally tough and dependable. When I think
of a goddess, I think of a woman who is in control of her emotions. She
doesn’t fall apart, break down, or throw fits if things don’t go her
way. She doesn’t become a wreck over the little things and her world
doesn’t revolve around never-ending drama. A goddess would never expect
a man to act as her therapist
(ever!) After all, that’s what
girlfriends are for, right?
4.
She is optimistic. A goddess has a sense of
humor. She can joke around, see the good in nearly every
circumstance, and enjoys life. She is not bitter and does not allow
resentment to take a hold of her. She is fun and has the ability to
laugh with others and at herself. A goddess is happy with her life and
with her place in the world. As a result, others are drawn to her and
her energy is contagious.
5.
Takes care of her appearance. A goddess
knows that when she looks good, she feels good. Her health and
well-being are important to her. She is well groomed and dresses
appropriately for the situation, without trying too hard to be noticed.
As Coco Chanel said, ''Dress shabbily and they remember the dress.
Dress impeccably and they remember the woman.'' It’s important not to go
to extremes, however. A woman’s attractiveness is not determined by
her daily caloric intake or by sporting a four figure handbag. Although
high heels and mascara are not foreign concepts to her, a real goddess
knows that true beauty starts within.
6.
Won’t chase a man. Can you imagine a
goddess throwing herself at a man or working overtime to impress him? I CAN'T!
But how often do we women act like this?
We’ll initiate
all contact. We’ll ''accidentally'' run into him. Heck, we’ll even
deny the break ups and try to get back together with the ones who dumped
us! We might
as well jump up and down while holding a sign that says
''Pick Me!!'' A
goddess wouldn’t do this... Instead, she lets men come to her and show
her their level of interest. She allows a man to pursue, to court, to
woo, thereby encouraging him to step up and be a man.
7.
Does not accept disrespect. Boundaries are a
good thing. There is nothing wrong with knowing how you want and
deserve to be treated. A goddess doesn’t allow a man to throw her
scraps and then try to convince her it’s an entrée. When she is treated
in an unacceptable manner, she has the strength to stand up for
herself, even if it means walking away. After someone ''got'' you, they shouldn't stop respecting you.
No matter how much time and effort was payed before.
8.
Not easily attained. A goddess knows her
worth. She doesn’t give off the ''I’m desperate for a man! Any man
will do!'' vibe. Instead, she occupies herself with the business of
her. She walks with pride through her own life and carefully analyzes
those men who catch up to her. She is the picker. She is the chooser.
And she strives to choose wisely. As a result, the man who wins her
heart also believes he has won an incredible woman. To paraphrase the
famous dating quote: PLAYING hard to get is ridiculous. BEING hard to
get is marvelous.
9.
Feminine. It is entirely possible to be a
CEO, a professional athlete, or have an A-cup and still be undeniably
feminine. Femininity doesn’t mean acting like a little girl, a
weakling, or an airhead. Not even close. Nor do you have to forgo
jeans and baseball caps or the ability to hang with the guys. Being
feminine is about embracing yourself as a woman. It’s about being
charming and gracious. It’s about radiating warmth and openness. The
vast majority of men are instinctively drawn to ''femininity''. At the
end of the day, they want a woman who is a lady.
10.
Prizes her sexuality. A goddess is neither
prudish nor promiscuous. Although she enjoys sex and physical
intimacy, she realizes that it is a valuable gift and doesn’t allow
herself to be used or treated carelessly. She won’t dress overly
provocatively or flaunt her “sex-ploits” on a date. She waits before
consummating relationships and is trustworthy in matters of fidelity.
The goddess views sex as ''special'' and she encourages her man to treat
her like a ''special'' woman.
Obviously,
Picasso’s one sentence quote inspired me. It is not only
the motivation behind much of my writing, but it has also got me to
think that you can lose the status of a goddess even if you were and
acted like one, you have to keep reminding these things to yourself.
If I can understand that - so can you, my dear Goddess.
Posts
