Monday, October 11, 2010

Off topic - relationships! I am sure i am not the only one!?

I have huge fear - i am affraid to appear too clingy. I am not affraid to show my affection to someone, but i don't ever want to be the one, who takes the first step. The first step not necceserily means going to a guy i like and expressing this to him, but i hate being the one, who texts or e-mails first. God forbid be the one who asks a GUY out. I could know, that this particular guy REALLY likes me, and i won't be turned down, i still hate taking the first step. Do you have the same feeling? Like, i want to talk to someone, but i have this ugly feeling in my stomach, that maybe he is busy and i'll be bothering him and he won't, say, text back and then i feel that i lost my... quality? my secrecy.. i don't even know how to put it, but i am sure you all understand it. This especialy is a big problem in the beggining of love affairs. How do i let a guy know that i like him? (This is rethorical question)

So let's call my complex A Princess complex, because i feel the need to be conquered by a guy, and then i can be all his. So, this Princess complex is actually keeping me restrained from guys i like. Which is bad. The guys i manage to make a first sparkle-ey contact with often just stops making an effort to conquer me, because i just don't seem interested. When in fact i am building an imaginary wedding scenario in my head.

My girlfriends keep telling me, that this is XXI century, and there are no need to live in the tower and wait for Prince Charming to come up, you have to make things happen yourself these days, cause guys are not good at picking signals, or just waiting for a girl, who just doesn't seem interested.... I guess they are right.

ALL of my ex boyfriends had complained to me that i was lacking affection towrds them. No i wasn't. I just wasn't showing it. I guess it is a way of protecting myself, that in case i would get dumped, i could leave the relationship with my head held high and say ''That's ok. I didn't like you that much anyway.'' That would be hard to do, if i were all ''Hey there, my hunny little pumpkin bunny, i missed you so much i stared at your picture for 4hours!!!'' Yeah.... But guys said that they actualy like to hear silly stuff like this, that shows them that they are being cared of.

I believe that distancing myself from my love affairs had to do something with and watching my friends, who got their heart stomped on and crushed and broken by guys that were truly not so much into them, but my friends believed they were and it got them into bad places. I need to make sure that a guy really  likes me, and not just wants to hook up with me.

ANOTHER thing is watching movies, like How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days or He's Just Not That Into You and seeing mistakes that girls make and appears clingy to guys, just barely by showing their interest and care.

And all guys are hunters. They need to hunt their prey, and i am fine of being the prey. My motto in a relationships is - If a guy wants to meet you again - HE will make it happen. Go ahead - chase me!

Why am i feeling i need to get this off my chest? Because i think that it is time to change my beliefs, and become a little more.. affectionate and warm in showing my feelings... I met a guy recently, and i kinda would like to see how it would work out, but again - i hate being the first that shows interest.. Well that's actually badly put.. We are in a 3nd date stage and we allready kissed *coughs*made out*coughs*, but he is rather restrained towards me, that bugs me. So my friend told me that i need to show him that i really like him, cause i may have said something that could've made him believe that i am not interested in getting to know him better.

Anywayyys.. Am i the only one acting this weird...??

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Going back to basics with haircare

  My hair care is the most problematic part of my beauty care regime. I don't have time to put some mask on them, or sometimes even to treat them with a conditioner (guilty). So i perfected the art of shampooing my hair, then blowdrying them and getting out the door in like 10 minutes In addition to get extra 10 minutes of sleep in the morning. So it's obvious that my hair didn't like that tough love routine so much and started to become all fuzzy, and frizzy.. i had a whole lot of split ends.. long story short - it got ugly...

So here i am, sitting in my hairdresser's chair, waiting for her trembling in fear because i know that when she'll see me, she will chop them off... and she did....
My beautif... well, not so much anymore... but looong hair turned just average mid-length locks.... I convinced myself that it is good for them, and.. me... and moved on... I was the one that told her to keep my hair looking healthy no matter what afterall...

My new task/goal was to grew out my hair as healthy as i possibly can. Either that, or getting bald before i'm 30... So, what did i do?
  • I did a post a while ago, when i was taking a good care of my hair, there's alot of tips about haircare and growing out healthy hair. What else? Well, if you wash your hair every single morning, use a proper shampoo! Basics! Simple, plain, natural.... And read the label, it should say that the shampoo is suitable for everyday use. Yeah, sure, brands like L'oreal etc has good shampoos, but they are filled with chemicals, which, when using everyday on your hair, can do some damage... So i went out to cute little boutique which sells natural beauty products and bought simple shampoo with camomiles for like two euros. I love it! It is not fancy, but smells like honey and is gentle on my damaged hair.  I remember sometimes going to my friends bathrooms and seeing these kind of cheap shampoos and thinking ''whoa, why can't she buy normal and good shampoo?? i saw that one in my grandmother's bathroom.... girl, what are you thinking?'' Well, i was wrong. I now actually prefer those silly eggnog shampoos to John Frieda :P
  • My hair tends to become greasy very fast, so up till now i was reluctant to use any kind of oils, or greasy serums on them. But then i started to think, why not? I wash my hair everyday anyway, so they probobly won't make them any greasier. There are lots of so called ''fluids'' or serums for hair now... Some girls put simple olive or argon oil as a mask on their hair. My hairdresser adviced me to buy mango(as in fruit) oil. She told me, she had a client which had curly, tingley, dry hair (you get the picture). It was so bad, that at first she couldn't even get the scissors to cut it lol. But after a few weeks of this oil therapy her hair were gorgeous, shiny and healthy looking. I am not sure where you can find it where you live, but they tend to have all sorts of fruit or fruit seed oils in specified beauty salon supplies/pro stores, That's where i bought mine. It smells AH-MAZING and you can put in on your body as well. So again - basics. Simple. I am sure, i could've bought some fancy expensive fluid for hair, but i spent again couple of euros and i cannot be any happier with results! :)
So do you find that sometimes going back to simple things is such a refreshing and surprisingly awesome thing? Do you have any tips you'd like to share? Don't hesitate - let's discuss it!