There's a kindergarten literally in my yard, i can hear and see everything that little kids do or say, whether i want it or not. They sometimes kinda make me mad, by taking children out to play at like 10a.m. when i am still in my deepest sleep phase and their playful yelling and chattering makes me wake up all grungy, but most of the time i love that i can see kids playing and having a great time.
What pisses me off is the adults - the kindergarten teachers.
I still cannot believe what i heard today! It was the exact phrase from the movie ''He's Just Not That Into You''. I thought this kind of nonsense stopped like ten years ago and women want little girls to grow up smarter than that.
So let me paint the picture for you:
I did not saw what happened prior that, but it's quite obvious that one little boy did something mean to this little girl who ran to her teacher all sad and chocked up. I believe he either pushed her, or said something mean to her.. anyways... So the girl goes to her teacher to get comforted, she gives her a hug, wipes down her tears and this is how the stupid teacher explains it to the girl :
''He probobly likes you, that's why he did that to you... ''
I wish i could explained that to the little girl - no one gets to touch you without your permission. Boys who really like you will not be mean to you. He pushed you down because he’s an asshole! If it happens again, I'd knock his block off.
Now i understand, that by saying so, the girl got comforted, even lifted up a bit and quickly forgot what happened. And it was the easiest way out for the teacher than actually involving to a conversation with the girl about why someone was mean to her. But this DOES form a long-term pattern in her head, especialy if it keeps happening and every single time some boy, who are in nature in general madcaps, does something MEAN to her she believes that she is beeing liked... it's not gonna lead to anything good.
It's proven scientifically now that childhood is the time when mental traumas and phobias and behavior in the future are being formed. So say we keep repeating a little gorgeous female that if a guy is mean - he is actually into you, she WILL go on and behave quiet and silent whenever someone beats her up. NOT GOOD!
A new lesson all the girls should be taught: Know your worth and say so!