Friday, March 11, 2011

Off topic - We should stop teaching little girls this nonsense!!!

There's a kindergarten literally in my yard, i can hear and see everything that little kids do or say, whether i want it or not. They sometimes kinda make me mad, by taking children out to play at like 10a.m. when i am still in my deepest sleep phase and their playful yelling and chattering makes me wake up all grungy, but most of the time i love that i can see kids playing and having a great time.
What pisses me off is the adults - the kindergarten teachers.

I still cannot believe what i heard today! It was the exact phrase from the movie ''He's Just Not That Into You''. I thought this kind of nonsense stopped like ten years ago and women want little girls to grow up smarter than that.

So let me paint the picture for you:
I did not saw what happened prior that, but it's quite obvious that one little boy did something mean to this little girl who ran to her teacher all sad and chocked up. I believe he either pushed her, or said something mean to her.. anyways... So the girl goes to her teacher to get comforted, she gives her a hug, wipes down her tears and this is how the stupid teacher explains it to the girl :
''He probobly likes you, that's why he did that to you... ''
What?!?

I wish i could explained that to the little girl - no one gets to touch you without your permission.  Boys who really like you will not be mean to you.  He pushed you down because he’s an asshole! If it happens again, I'd knock his block off.

Now i understand, that by saying so, the girl got comforted, even lifted up a bit and quickly forgot what happened. And it was the easiest way out for the teacher than actually involving to a conversation with the girl about why someone was mean to her. But this DOES form a long-term pattern in her head, especialy if it keeps happening and every single time some boy, who are in nature in general madcaps, does something MEAN to her she believes that she is beeing liked... it's not gonna lead to anything good.
It's proven scientifically now that childhood is the time when mental traumas and phobias and behavior in the future are being formed. So say we keep repeating a little gorgeous female that if a guy is mean - he is actually into you, she WILL go on and behave quiet and silent whenever someone beats her up. NOT GOOD!

A new lesson all the girls should be taught: Know your worth and say so!

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Eyelash extensions. Is it worth it?

The Accident
Yesterday i got a facebook message from one of my besties with a cry for help - I just pulled out most of my eyelashes on one eye! What am i supposed to do now??
Yes, the same question popped in my head too - HOW?? Well, she said.... ''I used dirty eyelash curler with leftover mascara residue on it it got stuck on my lashes and i somehow just pulled it and... my lashes went all out with it.'' Let this be a lesson to all of us! Always make sure your beauty utensils are as clean as possible. Otherwise instead of helping make you pretty, they will just do damage.
So what is there to do, when you get involved in some eyelash pulling accident, or just can't swagger about long-ass thick and beautiful eyelashes?

The Answer (?)
For a couple of years now there is such thing in the beauty world as eyelash extensions. Just like hair extensions they add length, thickness and fullness to natural eyelashes. Synthetic single fiber polyester thread-like materials are applied to individual eyelashes to create a fuller, longer look. This type of enhancement is not the same as department store strip lashes. Extensions come in various lengths, colors and thicknesses, and can be worn during sleep, showering and swimming. So basically this is just as good as your own lashes, just better looking.

How it is done?
The proffesional will apply one extension to one lash. The procedure to attach the extensions takes an average of one and a half to two hours for a full set of roughly 30-80 lashes per eye. During the procedure, you will lay with your eyes closed, will be asked to stay as still as possible cause the girl or a guy applying fibers will do so with really sharp tweezers. From what i've heard most of the times the clients just drift off to sleep and wake up to already beautiful self. 
Pros and cons and things to consider
That is actually one of the biggest reasons why one should consider eyelash extensions. Imagine how every single morning you wake up and look like you already have mascara on.
I know number of girls who went to salons and got this enhacement done. And yes, they all looked awesome... well most of them. E.g. my art teacher has more extravagant style, so she made her lashes unbelievably looooong. Like Bambi. Yes it looks unnatural. Despite what all the salons who does this says, it looks unnatural in most cases. Guys say they look creepy. You can't use your usual mascara, just the water based ones like Apple Water Lash Mascara- Water Based or Ango Eyelash Extension Coating Mascara - Black. Though while having these extensions mascara is not neccesary, lashes look black and thick enough without it. But it looks even more dramatic with it.

The biggest cons and why i don't like it
They don't last. They don't look this amazing forever. Thet may last from two weeks to two months, depending on the cycle of hair growth. On many cases, despite how professionaly it is done, they look like freshly applied for a week. After that they just tangle up and start to fall off. And to get them fixed costs alot of money. Aproximately half the price of the whole procedure. Which differs from 70 euros to... well alot if you want non fiber ones but mink ones. So if you decide not to get fixing done, you will walk around looking like you just accidentally pulled half of your lashes for real for like a good month. So it is pricy, requires taking extra good care of it with all the combing and stuff and takes alot of time to get fixings done each couple of weeks.

The real answer
I suggested my poor friend to just wait for it to grow out. While we discussed the eyelash extension procedure, it is just not worth it in my opinion. Basics - she bought a castor oil and will carefully apply it to the lashes before going to sleep ( before doing so you must find out if you are not allergic to it) in a month or so she will have her lashes again but thicker, longer and even more darker.
There are also so called eyelash enhancers novadays like Rapid Lash or simmilar.


Share if you have experienced eyelash extensions procedure and what are your opinions about it.
Maybe you have some other method to share how to enhance your natural lashes?